2022: the Lasso Way (week 2) *Steal this content*

DAY #8 Positivity vs. Toxic Positivity

“I have a tricky time hearing folks that don’t believe in themselves, so Imma ask you real quick again…do you think this idea will work?” — Ted, to Nate

“You beating yourself up is like Woody Allen playing the clarinet: I don’t wanna hear it. Knock if off. Go easy on yourself. Okay?” — Ted, to Roy

“Let’s be sad now. Let’s be sad together. And then we can be a gosh-darn goldfish.”

DAY 8 PROMPT: How can you (positively) re-frame a challenge in your life right now?


“F*ck the haters.”

Sam: “We can’t change the past.

Ted: No Sam, no we cannot, but we can choose to honor it. Those young men, they made the ultimate sacrifice. So i think it’s only fair that we sacrifice something of our own. I’m gonna ask each and every one of you to go home tonight, find something, an item, something personal, something that you truly value, and I want you to bring it tonight to the clubhouse at midnight.

Roy: We’re all gonna f*ckin do it!”

DAY 9 PROMPT: How can you tell more personal stories with your team?

B’lieve, hon

Day 10: Create visuals


“You know Rupert, guys have underestimated me my entire life. And for years I never understood why — it used to really bother me — but then one day I was driving my little boy to school and I saw this quote by Walt Whitman, it was painted on the wall there, it said, ‘Be curious, not judgmental.’ I liked that.”

Day 10 PROMPT: What reminders do you need to make visual?

Day 11: Vulnerability makes for good relationships

As Brené’s social science research teaches us:

Vulnerability is the flip side of courage. Vulnerability inspires empathy.

And empathy leads to trust.

“Point is,… you should have found out about it from me first. But I chose not to tell y’all and that was dumb. You know fellas…We make a lot of choices in our lives. Every single day. … Me choosing not to be forthright with y’all — that was a bad choice. I can’t be wasting time wishing for a do-over on all that. That ain’t how choices work. No sir. … Every choice is a chance fellas. And I didn’t give myself the chance to build further trust with y’all. To quote the great UCLA college basketball coach John Obi-Wan Gandolf, It is our choices, gentlemen, that show who we truly are, far more than our abilities. Now I hope y’all can forgive me what I’ve done. Cuz I sure as heck wouldn’t want any of y’all to hold anything back from me.”

“The truth shall set you free, but first it will piss you off.”

“It does make you realize how scary it is, allowing yourself to be intimate again. You really do have to be brave, and that’s it right there, isn’t it. I need to be brave enough to let someone wonderful love me, without fear of being hurt, without fear of being safe.”

“I want to share with y’all the truth about my recent struggles with anxiety and, well, my overall concern about the way we discuss and deal with mental health in athletics.”

Day 11 PROMPT: How can you be more vulnerable with a co-worker?

Day 12: Breathe

“Just breathe. Sigue andando el camino por toda su vida. Respira.”

“Ted. It’s okay. Try to breathe … It’s okay. Just breathe.” Rebecca, during Ted’s first panic attack

Ted, You’re okay, Ted, You’re okay. Just focus on your 4–7–8- breathing … You can, come on. Just breathe.” — Doc Sharon, on the phone, during the funeral

Day 12 PROMPT: In what circumstances might it be helpful to practice the relaxing 4–7–8 breath (4 deep inhale, 7 hold, 8 exhale)?

Day #13 Play with people & pets

“This, this is where I lived. Where I learned football. Every f*cking day. And during my career, when I was going through a bad patch, I’d come back here and play.

I brought you here to remind you that football is a f*cking game and you used to play as a f*cking kid because it was fun. Even when you were getting your f*cking legs broken or your f*cking feelings hurt… So f*ck your feelings. F*ck your overthinking. F*ck all that bullsh!t. Go back out there and have some f*cking fun.”

“Why don’t we get out of this stuffy auditorium, go out on the pitch and have a proper F*ck about”

Day 13 PROMPT: When are you in the moment of spontaneous play?

Day 14: Be present

“You know what the happiest animal on Earth is? It’s a goldfish. Y’know why? (No) It’s got a 10-second memory. Be a goldfish, Sam.”

“Let’s be sad now. Let’s be sad together. And then we can be a gosh-darn goldfish. Onward. Forward.”

“They say goldfish have no memory, I guess their lives are much like mine

And the little plastic castle, Is a surprise every time

And it’s hard to say if they’re happy, But they don’t seem much to mind.”

- Ani Difranco, Little Plastic Castle

Day 14 PROMPT: What sense organ do you use as an “anchor” to remain present?



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